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Why me? Is it my fault and is there anything I can do?

Abuse can happen to anyone. An abusive relationship isn’t normal, it’s not OK, and you are not to blame for the abuse. It might feel like you’re alone, but you’re not – you deserve to be respected and safe in your relationships.

Seek help:

It is important to seek help, but don’t confront your abuser on your own. Instead speak to a trusted adult (family member, teacher, youth worker or the police) about what’s happening to you. They will be able to help. You can also talk to Safer; we can help you understand what is happening and make a safety plan and think about next steps.

It is important to have a safety plan. This can include:

  • Tell people who you trust about what has been happening
  • Thinking of safe places to go
  • Always have your phone charged
  • Make up a code word you can use with people if you need to ask for help in front of your abuser
  • Make sure someone always knows where you are
  • Think about when things are likely to be most scary, and plan when and how to leave safely
  • Call 999 in an emergency

 If you want to end your relationship, try to do it with other people around and keep important items in a bag that is kept safe somewhere (it should include keys, money, passport, id, medication etc.,).

Remember you can also message a member of the Safer team with a question you may have or advice you may need – askbe@safer.gg