When people hear the word intimate, they often think it means sex. But guess what? Most intimate relationships aren’t sexual at all.
They can be:
So, what is intimacy, really? It’s about feeling emotionally close to someone - like you can be totally yourself and talk about anything, without feeling judged or uncomfortable.
Love, dating, breakups, crushes - they’re a big part of growing up.
Figuring out how to build real, respectful connections is something everyone learns.
But if you don’t know what a healthy relationship looks like, you might end up in one that’s confusing or even unsafe.
(respect, kindness, trust)
(control, pressure, fear)The age of consent in Guernsey is 16. That means:
Consent is:
Consent is not:
Consent means choosing something freely — without pressure, fear, or confusion. If it’s not a clear, enthusiastic yes, then it’s a no.
Sex isn’t a performance. It’s about connection, comfort, and consent.
These local services are confidential, friendly, non-judgemental and here to help you.
01481 721999 (24/7)BeSafer is part of the charity Safer, which specialises in supporting and empowering victims of domestic abuse. The service is run by our dedicated team, including our Child and Young Person Violence Advisors (CYPVAs), who work directly with children and young people affected by domestic abuse, whether in their own homes or in their intimate relationships.
Alongside them, our Domestic and Sexual Abuse Education Workers deliver age-appropriate sessions in schools from Year 6 to Year 13, helping young people understand the difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships. Together, they provide a caring, all-round approach to supporting and educating young people.
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